The course will run as follows:
1. There will be a 6 week trial period which will run from September until December. Your deposit of £150 will cover this trial period.
This is so that you can get a more in-depth feel as to what the course is going to offer. This also gives me the opportunity to fine tune the course according to the group that will participate for the whole year.
2. If you wish to continue with the course for the rest of the year the cost is £350 per person ( £700 per couple). For those that are single the further cost will be £400.
3. There are 3 weekend workshops will cost £250 for all three or £100 each if you do not wish to attend all of them. We will endeavour to arrange at least one of them in London. The others will probably be at Cowdray Hall (in Midhurst, West Sussex) which is where we host our Just let Go weekends.
It has become increasingly obvious to me that many of us have made great progress in befriending ourselves better and yet we remain far from accomplished in our ability to relate and share our path with another at the highest level we might be capable of. Since relationships are such a core part of most of our lives it feels vital to me to offer this course in the hope it will help us to bring the very best of ourselves in our loving relationships with others. The course will cover many key aspects of what make relationships flourish and how we can avoid the pitfalls into which they so easily fall.
The Buddha teaches us almost entirely within the context of being individuals working for our individual liberation, and yet almost all of the people who are learning and practicing Dharma as householders are doing so within relationships, and if they are not, they hold on to the aspiration that one day they might be. In truth I haven’t ignored it. I remember some years ago during a long retreat period in Ibiza opening up the subject amongst the group and at that time starting to formulate the notion of presenting a course on how we might evolve our approach, attitude and the way that we engage within relationships to reflect the truths and insights that come to us through our practice.
It is a broad and deep subject and there is no doubt that we can learn things and find ways to develop as human beings within a relationship, that we may well not be able to do on our own. I would argue that to succeed in long-term partnership and reach our highest capacity for fulfilment and happiness is probably one of the greatest challenges and achievements we will ever have in our lives. Indeed, the very fact that almost all of us harbour inside a deep longing to share our journey in this life makes it surely an area worthy of the serious consideration and investigation.
What is more the fact that so many of us try and fail to manifest our inner hopes and dreams within this regard only serves to emphasise how much we might still be capable of learning. I see no shortage of people who have learned to master their individual lives and flourish therein, and yet remain little short of inept when it comes to being in a partnership. Indeed I count myself as one of those people. It is the area of our lives capable of bringing the richest rewards and the most unbearable misery. Life itself comes briefly to an end if we stop pairing and it degenerates quickly when the quality of the way we bond as partners degenerates. There is so much richness to be discovered within a relationship that is grounded in love, respect and common aspirations. And there is so much suffering that comes from getting it wrong.
Type: Online Course
Start Date : Late September 2018
Duration : 12 months including an initial 6 week trial
Suitable For : Anyone who has sat with Burgs for 7days
Deposit: £150/ person (contributes towards full cost of course)
Course Partner Price: £500 per person if joining as a couple [Total £1000]
Course Single Price: £550
Weekend workshops (optional): An additional £250 for 3 weekends OR £100 per weekend (per person)
The answer is no, but I will say this; the course is designed for you to look individually at how you might carefully and sensitively bring down the barriers within you to entering into a fully developed and evolved relationship with another.
If you do wish to participate in this course as a single person you are most welcome to do so. But I would encourage you to revisit it if and when you find yourself in a relationship. I would also add that I strongly dissuade you from trying to persuade your partner to do this course with you if they do not feel inclined. I also do not recommend that you load or burden a young relationship that is still in its exciting and heady early stages. The magic and heady rush of the early stages of love are best allowed all the spontaneity they can be given.
Have no doubt that this is challenging work and it will take maturity to engage with fully. We will be looking at every level at which we might connect. From the purely sexual, to the emotional, mental and spiritual. We will investigate the nature of resonance and discordance. How areas of openness and blockage often define relationships. We will learn to identify the nature of the relationship we are in so that we can have realistic aspirations and expectations for it. We will learn how to give AND how to receive. We will learn how to take our challenges as opportunities for growth and how to reach a place where our partner can become our perfect teacher. We will explore various levels of intimacy and trust. And we will investigate the role that relationships may play in bringing us closer to a more appropriate and contributory life as humans in this extraordinary time of change.
Before you decide whether to engage in this programme, either as a couple or as an individual, I would add these comments. If you feel you are with a partner who may not be as open to this as you, please be sure to reflect sensibly about whether it is appropriate for you to do it together. It might be something that you yourself can learn much from without your partner necessarily feeling the need at this time.
But whatever you do, if you do this course as an individual, do not make any efforts to then share and pass on the content to your partner. One of the surest ways to rob a relationship of its magic is for one party to assume the position of being any teacher or mentor to the other. If and when your partner feels ready, then you can return to the course together. I hope none of you will see it in terms of what you can teach your partner but what you can learn about yourself and each other.